I hate going to bars to look for someone, because all I seem to pick up is a sex partner. I'm looking for more than that. Personal ads are so impersonal and besides, imho you are advertising that you are desperate. A friend mentioned Coffee Houses and they seem to be a good bet, but I'm sooo out of practice with picking someone up. Maybe I'll go tomorrow and just smile at the guys. Oh wait, if I smile too much they may think I'm mental or something. Hehe, I am, so I guess it's ok.
Now let's see if I can keep from getting the crap beat out of me. My Gaydar hasn't been working too well lately.
The last guy I dated was the moderator of a men's group. He was 9 years older than I was. He was always surprised that I wanted to go out with him and he was expecting me to find someone younger and leave him at any moment. I didn't but his constant worrying drove a wedge between our relationship. I later broke it off, but not because I found anyone new.
I hate when I feel like I'm not trusted. When I'm in a relationship with someone, I don't go out and look for other people. Not to say that I'm blind, but I don't make an effort to cruise. I do flirt, but that is in my nature. I flirt with everybody, both men and women. I guess I can see how it may look like I'm cruising.
I'm analyzing too much! I just need to get out there and do it.